Trouble Grieving?

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QUESTION: “Is it OK to NOT really have an emotion
when someone is dying?

ANSWER: Remember, remember, remember…
who we are is NOT determined by what we feel,
BUT rather, by what we do, with what we feel.

When I was a little boy,
my first step father told me about clinical shock.

He explained that the more traumatic the injury,
the greater the span of time could be,
between injury and perception.

He then sited the example, of the man driving,
with his arm hanging out his car’s window,
someone clipped his car,
and his arm was sheered off at the elbow.

He went into shock, felt no pain,
drove himself, in trance-like state,
all the way to the hospital,
where he promptly passed out.

It is NOT uncommon when facing the death of a loved one,
to have a delayed reaction.

However if you find yourself, at their funeral,
without feeling any grief,
simply notice everyone else’s grief,
and use Buddha’s mental yoga of taking it away.

Once you’ve grown weary of doing that
you can simply rest in awareness,
in as much as, during the IN-breath you could intend “Noticing”
and during the OUT-breath: you could intend “Letting-go.”

Now there will come a time,
when you’ve really gotten into the “goove,”
and those three syllables on each breath,
could feel cumbersome.

When that happens, just use the one syllable version
where during the IN-breath you mentally, silently recite “This?”
and during the OUT-breath you intend “Free”
as in the phrase, “Fly be Free.”

So the real question is NOT
“are you grieving yet, like a good little boy?”
BUT rather, “How are you making the most
of the present moment?”

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May you and yours be

happy and healthy!

Om Mani Padme Hum,

Lama Jigme Gyatso: Rime Manipa Tantrika

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