Trouble Grieving?

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QUESTION: “Is it OK to NOT really have an emotion
when someone is dying?

ANSWER: Remember, remember, remember…
who we are is NOT determined by what we feel,
BUT rather, by what we do, with what we feel.

When I was a little boy,
my first step father told me about clinical shock.

He explained that the more traumatic the injury,
the greater the span of time could be,
between injury and perception.

He then sited the example, of the man driving,
with his arm hanging out his car’s window,
someone clipped his car,
and his arm was sheered off at the elbow.

He went into shock, felt no pain,
drove himself, in trance-like state,
all the way to the hospital,
where he promptly passed out.

It is NOT uncommon when facing the death of a loved one,
to have a delayed reaction.

However if you find yourself, at their funeral,
without feeling any grief,
simply notice everyone else’s grief,
and use Buddha’s mental yoga of taking it away.

Once you’ve grown weary of doing that
you can simply rest in awareness,
in as much as, during the IN-breath you could intend “Noticing”
and during the OUT-breath: you could intend “Letting-go.”

Now there will come a time,
when you’ve really gotten into the “goove,”
and those three syllables on each breath,
could feel cumbersome.

When that happens, just use the one syllable version
where during the IN-breath you mentally, silently recite “This?”
and during the OUT-breath you intend “Free”
as in the phrase, “Fly be Free.”

So the real question is NOT
“are you grieving yet, like a good little boy?”
BUT rather, “How are you making the most
of the present moment?”

The Thursday series of weekly webinars will only be offered once every year.

May you and yours be

happy and healthy!

Om Mani Padme Hum,

Lama Jigme Gyatso: Rime Manipa Tantrika

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Buying a Cat’s Love

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When I moved to my little apartment on the “bad side” of town,
I noticed that the small complex had two cats.
The first made friends with me rather quickly,
but the second was a bit stand-off-ish.

The remedy was simple,
buy their love with tuna.

Although both the cats seemed to enjoy the canned fish
the second one seemed to proclaim,
“You get me!”
and instantly became my best buddy.

Yes it might be accurate to describe the cat as a “Tuna whore,”
but wouldn’t that make he his “John?”

There are two types of desires,
those we spontaneously feel,
and those we contrive to choose.
The second category can define us.

Who could you choose to be?


Their are only 2 weeks until the start of the Wednesday series of webinars.

May you and yours be

happy and healthy!

Om Mani Padme Hum,

Lama Jigme Gyatso: Rime Manipa Tantrika

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How Rude!

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Tips on Meditation and the Spiritual path - idea #194
from your Buddhism expert



I carefully stepped off the Bus.



My cloth shopping bags, bulging with fresh produce,
subtly swung from the straps from which they hung on
my shoulders. In my left hand I held Sunday’s
Intermediate Sadhana {or practice text} open
to the skies. I was wearing the robes of a Tibetan
monk and my head was shorn in the style of the Dalai
Lama. In my right hand I counted beads on my mala
{or Buddhist rosary} while I softly recited

Om Mani Padme Hum as I slowly walked home. It
was apparent to all that this Buddhist monk,



was meditating.

“Aren’t you hot?”

a young lady demanded. She expected me to:
• stop walking,
• stop the important task of meditating,
• and engage her in pointless conversation,
upon a frivolous topic that was not at all
pertinent to her real spiritual or emotional needs.


Rather than do her the disservice of indulging her
manipulative and controlling tendencies I gently
smiled and silently lifted my right index finger to
my pursed lips in a pantomime of the “Shhh” gesture,



as I turned in her general direction while keeping
my eyes lowered to the ground in meditative drishti
{or gaze}.


As the spark of rage was kindled in her heart, she



spat the words,

“How Rude!”

Suddenly the hot, heavy desert air was pierced by
the siren of an ambulance approaching to tend a
fallen transient.

“Ooh, let's go and watch.”

she commanded her companion. And they turned and
swiftly walked away.


It is always a mistake to confuse a genuine need with
the mere urgency of impulse; especially the impulse
of trivial curiosity. When did the culture of
paparazzi and “reality T.V.”



convince us, as a people, that our lust for
inconsequential details gave us license to
disrespectfully pry into the lives of others in
the name of mindless recreation? How have we come
to believe that others live solely to entertain us?
Why do so many feel that the urgings of an
“inquiring mind” out weigh the need for courtesy
and consideration?


Who was this clearly anti-social and obviously,
oddly-dressed fellow who dared to defy her demand?

Her teacher.

And he’s yours as well. If she did not learn her
lesson, then perhaps you did.


Come, let us live lives marked by centeredness,
peace, balance, subtle joy and spontaneous love. No,
not the frenzied love of a little puppy dog,
convinced that he must lick the face of all he
encounters;



but the calm enlightened love of a Bodhisattva who
earnestly yet peacefully longs to take away the
suffering of every being, in the most wonderful
way. Sounds great, but how, how can we surmount
this task?


Simple! You could begin by implementing Buddha’s lost
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Om Mani Padme Hum,
Lama Jigme Gyatso
Tibetan-Buddhist: Monk, Teacher, Healer and Tantrika


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Litmus Test

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Tips on Meditation and the Spiritual path - idea #161
from your Buddhism expert



Litmus Test?



Do you practice yoga? Do you sit zazen? Did you know
there are two simple litmus tests to measure the
effectiveness of your daily meditation? Simple!
When you are driving around town with a buddy or a
relative, how comfortable are you with silence?
Can you keep the radio off, and your mouth shut
while exploring a happy peace?







Many years ago, when I was a courier, I would have
full conversations with imaginary people when I was
riding my caffeine high. Or, if I was stressed,
although I might give my mouth a rest, my thoughts
still raced like a mouse scampering on his
exercise wheel.


So what is the second litmus test? When the day is
not quite so happy, can you sit in silence without
the constant mental review of the problems de jour?


This is not a phenomena known only to the laity. For
I have traveled with seminar leaders and self-help
gurus who simply could not shut up to save their
lives. I’ve watched them prattle on as an endless
avalanche of words cascaded out of their mouths,
about the mundane as well as the psudo-spiritual,
each more useless then the last {to paraphrase
Adam Sandler}.


I’ve known “teachers” who could preach about the
need and the glory of meditation for hours but who
could only sit for mere moments. I’ve encountered enumerable “yogis” who were convinced that the
purpose of meditation was to “bliss out” and to that
ends had become utterly dependent upon herbs,
headphones, tapes, goggles and a seemingly endless
cavalcade of gagets.


The test of our practice is not found in isolation,
but in the hustle and bustle of everyday life. Can
we happily share silence? Can we rest in awareness,
even in the presence of legitimate stress? If the
answer to either or both of these questions is “no”
then our solution lies not in lofty metaphysics or
obscure points of doctrine but in the realm of
mundane practicals.


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Om Mani Padme Hum,
Lama Jigme Gyatso
Tibetan-Buddhist: Monk, Teacher, Healer and Tantrika



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